You’ve been feeling your whole life like you’ve let people in, only to find out that they’re taking more than you wanted to give. You love people, of course, but you don’t want them taking advantage of you. You feel their pain, and you are a deeply empathetic, yet it never seems like your end of the deal comes out very well. In fact most of your time around others ends up making you feel worse. This isn’t good, and it comes with the territory of being “open” to other people’s pain. There are ways to keep this from happening, however, and it means teaching yourself how to protect your inner world. Here are some things to remember when out in this great wide world that will help protect you from the gifts of others not given nicely.
You’ve been feeling your whole life like you’ve let people in, only to find out that they’re taking more than you wanted to give. You love people, of course, but you don’t want them taking advantage of you. You feel their pain, and you are a deeply empathetic, yet it never seems like your end of the deal comes out very well. In fact most of your time around others ends up making you feel worse. This isn’t good, and it comes with the territory of being “open” to other people’s pain. There are ways to keep this from happening, however, and it means teaching yourself how to protect your inner world. Here are some things to remember when out in this great wide world that will help protect you from the gifts of others not given nicely.
You must learn how to say no
There are rules for a reason, just as their are general morals and beliefs. They are there to clearly outline how people should act in a given place. When people don’t follow these rules, then they are asked to leave or taken away. This is the same for you: you must learn how to draw a line in your own proverbial sand so people know what they can and cannot do. By always saying yes to whatever is asked, your are easily used, and more often than not, being manipulated. You don’t have to say no to everything everyone asks of you, but you can be clear about the thins you simply cannot say yes to. And then stick by them.
Let those who are harming you go
It’s not worth holding on to someone who is constantly demanding your time and love. Always trying to solve someone’s problems takes away from your own needs, especially if you have problems of your own. Once someone sees that you are always at their beck-and-call, they’ll keep taking advantage of it. There will be no changing it until you let them go. It doesn’t have to be forever, but a break is needed at the very least. Put the energy you’re giving them back into your own life, and you’ll see how much better off your are.
Get outside
By giving ourselves nature breaks, we’re kind of resetting the proverbial system. We are called to do it, even if we live in the most removed of places. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the decisions you’ve made, it’s best to get out there and take a break from everything. Leave the phone at home and walk in the woods. Drive to your local garden or park, and take a seat. Or get out a bike and ride around for a bit. You’ll see your mind changing directions quickly.
Be responsible for yourself
Other people aren’t there to live your life. Even your parents weren’t. You were still you, even at two years old. So take responsibility for your own life, and don’t pass off the decisions you make to others. You have the power to make your own changes, and that power is huge. Don’t keep living by standards given to you from people who never had your best interest in mind. Use the judgement that got you to a place of well-being in the past, and go forth without the hanger-ons that want to bring you down.
Source: Daily Occupation
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